Pay Attention to Others

The truth is that it's never about you. It's always about other people. This is something that one must accept to be able to move on in life, otherwise we will all remain fools. With this simple step in mind, we must realize what other people think and take from you. People are the biggest influence to others, there is no differentiation. A stranger can effect you as much as you best friend. The only problem here is that you can't change what other people do, so what can you do? You can change yourself, and this is what everyone should do. We need to start looking at other people and understanding their feelings and desires. At a certain point in one's life you need to realize that everything that humans do is manipulation of others. To accomplish anything one needs to manipulate others. But, not everyone really understands what others feel. While you may be thinking, I know what people feel, I can tell. Sometimes when one person seems one way, they can be having the exact opposite of that emotion. When a self-sacrificing person offers to leave a group so another can join, it's not always the best thing to do to let that person leave. Sometimes that person should stay. Every single kind person is self-sacrificing and to deny them of the group pushes them into more suffering. The hardest people to read are introverts. When you think they are doing one thing, they are really doing something else or want something else. Most introverts may have an outward appearance of disgust toward all others, yet they are usually some of the kindest people and best friends out there. While personally I am still working with observing people, I can't tell you how to pay attention and understand the feelings of others. The best advice is to think before you make a decision that effects that person. Everyone likes to have fun no matter how "kind" you are. It's not right to sacrifice one person for another, even if the group has a unanimous decision on it.

As humans, we need to be looking toward other people and begin to understand them. Just take a minute and review the decision and the effects on the feelings of the self-sacrificing person. Maybe just take a minute and watch what other people are up to instead of having conversations yourself. You may start to notice things.