There is a common saying that goes along the lines of, "It doesn't matter what people think about you, only what you think about yourself." This is used to cheer people up, however, this statement is only half right. Really what matters the most is what people think about you. No one will care about what you think about yourself because they won't know what you feel on the inside. They can't see into your soul. all that matters is what people think about you. In a sense the saying works like this; you feel better about yourself and then because of that you reform how other people think about you.
That's the theory at least.
So, how do you reform yourself? How do you change?
Change is one of the hardest things to do according the majority of people. The concept of change here is a mental change not necessarily a physical change, however a physical change may help to push along a mental change. A mental change is changing how you think or your viewpoints on something. How exactly do you change? To answer this question we need to examine what exactly changes people the most. In this case it's the environment around you that changes you the most. Also the best time to change is when you are young. Humans are born into this world similar to wet clay. You are very easily molded and your ideas can shift really easily depending on what influences poke at you. However as time goes on you become dry and solidify your ideals. It is still possible to change but it would take much more energy to do so. By now you may be thinking, I've probably lived enough to make it really hard for me to change or almost impossible to change. This is not the case. Everyone can change no matter what stage of life they are in. So how to change?
Since the environment has the biggest effect on you, simply change the environment to change yourself. While doing this is a much more difficult process as the results of adjusting the environment may accidentally lead to unwanted side effects. If you manage to change the environment even slightly, you might be able to bring about a change to yourself. For example, you can simply remove some distractions from your house, such as your computer or gaming consoles. If you do this you will in a sense force yourself out of your original self and push yourself forward to do something else. In the case of abstaining from playing video games, you might end up reading in your spare time. If you fail to change the environment then you will fail to change. This is how Rehabilitation Centers work. You force someone into an environment where they lack what they most want. After starving them of this, they are forced to adapt and change to the new situation at hand and become independent of that factor of their lives. At a certain point they are put back into the world. They often relapse because of the fact that their environment has changed again. Since it was an old environment they can easily slide back in and in a sense they haven't changed.
The second thing to do that will change you, is to change your friends. This is much harder to accomplish but will guarantee you a change. It may seem hard to abandon your old friends and find new ones but if the situation calls for it, this might be one of the only ways to do it. While you may think that you can keep both friends, you will find it is very difficult to do while keeping them separate entities. This is not recommend and you should only use it as a last resort.
With all this change about the air, is this really change?
In a sense we can never change. There are two distinct parts to a human, the internal soul and the external expression. While we can change the external expression all we want, the internal soul is solid and will never change. It is the being that we are born with, it is all the skill that we possess and we can never change this, so in a sense we can never change, yet we can.
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